I have an unusual skillset.

I can sit across from someone — a founder in crisis, a public figure mid-unraveling, a couple on the edge of ending it — and within minutes, I can see the pattern underneath what they're describing. Not the story they're telling me. The structure beneath the story. The thing that's actually driving the conflict, the stuckness, the recurring wreckage. And I can change it — sometimes in a single conversation.

I can also walk into a room full of people who don't trust each other, and create the conditions where they start telling the truth in ways that connect. Not because I lecture them about vulnerability. Because I know how to hold a space where the real thing becomes safer than the performance — and I know how to navigate what happens next, when it gets messy and charged and human.

People who've experienced it tend to struggle to explain it afterward. They say things like "therapist on steroids" or "a more grounded version of Tony Robbins" or just "I don't know what he did, but something shifted and it hasn't shifted back."

None of this came from a textbook.

I spent twenty years in bodywork before I ever entered a training room — thousands of sessions as an Advanced Rolfer, learning to read what people hold in their bodies and can't say out loud. That foundation in presence and somatic awareness is underneath everything I do.

But the real toolkit started when I enrolled in one of the top Neuro-Linguistic Programming programs in the country and trained for three years under some of the discipline's pioneers. NLP gave me the architecture of the mind: the mechanics of how beliefs form, how habits lock in, how states get triggered, and how all of it can be changed. Deliberately, precisely, sometimes shockingly fast, sometimes by chipping away repeatedly and consistently.

I discovered I could help people quit lifelong habits in a single session. I could reach material that years of conventional therapy hadn't touched and left other practitioners stumped. I learned to speak directly to the subconscious mind, and I learned that when you do, people change at a depth and speed that most practitioners don't believe is possible until they see it.

I got certified as a clinical hypnotherapist to go even deeper. I trained in Family and Systemic Constellations to work with the invisible dynamics that run through relationships and lineages — the loyalties, the inherited patterns, the things nobody in the family talks about but everybody acts out.

But then I found something that changed everything.

I got trained in facilitating Circling: the practice of radical, unscripted, real-time relational presence. And it broke my whole framework open. Where NLP had trained me to always be steering people's consciousness toward change, Circling demanded that I let go of every agenda and simply be with whoever was in front of me, exactly as the moment was, and stay there, and track what’s happening on a moment-by-moment basis. No techniques. No destination. Just this moment, exactly as it is, with nothing between us, and whatever arises in that space where you remove everything else, and have to just fucking stay.

I had to learn to hold both: the capacity to intervene precisely and powerfully, and the capacity to drop all of it and just BE with someone, with nothing but raw presence. That combination — the cunning precision, with profound acceptance and surrender — is what makes my work different from anything else out there. Most practitioners have one or the other. I have both, and I move between them fluidly based on what the moment and situation requires.

I've since led hundreds of group sessions: Circling, Authentic Relating, T-Groups, and specialized cohorts of relational trainings. My facilitation style has become known for creating spaces where people feel simultaneously safe and challenged, where the difficult thing gets said and nobody dies, where something real happens that couldn't have been planned or scripted, where people leave nourished and stretched. I've been the pilot of rooms that ranged from quiet and meditative to intense shitstorms, and I feel equally at home in all of it.

Today I work privately with founders, executives, public figures, and the occasional person who's none of those things but has a situation complex enough to find its way to me. I teach relational intelligence through live cohort trainings. I host a podcast and a live call-in show. I'm developing a docuseries about what happens when people stop performing and start being real.

In a world that's rapidly automating everything that can be automated and AI promises or threatens to change everything, the work I do sits squarely in the territory that can't be replaced. No algorithm will ever sit across from you, read what's actually happening beneath what you're saying, have you feel properly met, name the pattern you've never been able to see, and help you change it in real time. That requires a human being with an unusual set of skills, an uncommon tolerance for intensity, and the willingness to go wherever the conversation actually needs to go.

That's what I do. And if you're reading this, there's probably a reason you're here.

How I work.

I don't have a single modality. I have a toolkit that I've spent two decades assembling, and I deploy whatever the situation actually needs.

When the issue is deep — an old wound still running the show, a pattern installed in childhood, a habit you've tried everything to break — I work at the level of the subconscious. NLP, hypnotherapy, somatic processing, constellation work. This is where the real architecture lives, and it's where lasting change happens. I've watched people walk into a session carrying something they've held for thirty years and walk out without it. Not because they "processed" it. Because it actually shifted.

When the issue is live — your marriage is crumbling, you’re dreading a certain conversation, your team quietly hates you or won’t tell you the truth, a dynamic where you know something's wrong but can't even name it — I work in real time. I can read what's happening between people with a precision that tends to catch them off guard, and then I help you do something useful with what I see. This is the relational intelligence work: how you show up under pressure, how you handle conflict, how you give feedback that lands, how you hold authority without losing connection.

When the issue is both — and it usually is — I move between levels as needed. One session might start with the conversation you're about to have with your co-founder and end up in a memory from when you were eleven. Another might start with something you've carried for decades and end with a concrete plan for what to say on Monday morning. I follow the thread wherever it goes.

The common denominator in all of it: I don't flinch. You bring whatever it is — the weird one, the ugly one, the one you haven't told anyone — and I meet it fully, without judgment, without an agenda, and without needing you to perform being okay.

ertification:

• Certified Master Transformational Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, NLP Marin, 2016
• Certified Holographic Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, 2017
• Certified Family and Systemic Constellation Facilitator, NLP Marin, 2017
• Certified Hypnotherapist, Hypnotherapy Training Institute, 2020
• Certified Circling Facilitator, Circling Europe Institute, 2021
• Certified Flow Circling Facilitator, The Relateful Company, 2022
• Studied at Somatic Experiencing International, Phase 1 Completed
• Certified Advanced Rolfer, Guild for Structural Integration, 2015